The holidays hold a lot of pressure for many. Even if you are looking forward to the lights, food, and festivities during the holiday season, there may also be a lot of stress. Pressure to impress loved ones with the most picture-perfect meal or the greatest gift can lead to stress. Wanting to buy the best gift can lead to strains on a tight budget, and this year, the delays in packages can lead to stress and anxiety that your gifts won’t arrive on time. For many this year, feelings of sadness may also arise from being unable to be close to family during this time. Below are a few things you can do if you find yourself stressed or depressed during this holiday season: 

1. Be Kind To Your Wallet: If finances are running low, consider declining the gift exchange in favor of baking something for someone, or creating another homemade gift. You may even consider gifting experiences such as a coffee date, or another activity, especially post-pandemic. This year, spending time with family and friends over video calls may alleviate some of the stress related to the financial burden of travel. 

2. Say “No” If You Feel Overwhelmed: Trying to have your home look perfect or trying to be in multiple places or complete additional tasks in time for the holiday can turn what should be an enjoyable time into an overwhelming one. Don’t be afraid to saying no when you are asked to organize the holiday party at work, or asked to create a family Zoom day to celebrate the holidays. Perhaps aim for smaller gatherings after the new year. This gives you time to reach out and spend one-on-one time with friends and family in the new year when calendars are more open. 

3. Know When To End Unwanted Conversations: Often family members may have differing opinions and friendly family conversations can turn into a feud. When you see family members chatting with one another, and it becomes heated, there is nothing wrong with removing yourself from the situation. If you are worried about family or friends grilling you about topics related to work or personal life, you’re also able to walk away. Or you might consider rehearsing any replies to anticipated questions in advance of seeing family rather than struggling to find the words you want to say. Another option is to change the conversation altogether or let the other person know that the topic they’ve brought up is too sensitive and you’d prefer not to discuss it. 

4. Honor Those Who Have Passed On: Often the holidays can bring up feelings of sadness around loved ones who have passed on. While there is no way to replace the presence of a loved one, know that you are allowed to feel sad. Consider honoring their memory during the holidays by donating time or money to causes that remind you of them, look at pictures of them during past, positive holiday times, or incorporate a holiday tradition they had or create a new one they would have enjoyed. 

5. Don’t Be Alone Unless You Want To: Enjoy the holiday relaxing in solitude if you want, or focus on self-reflection. However, if you feel lonely consider finding a volunteer opportunity, seeking out online events or support groups in your area, or spend time with neighbors or co-workers who might be alone. 

We hope you have a safe, healthy, and fulfilling holiday season this year! If you are in need of some support during this time, don’t hesitate to click here.