It is never easy when a friendship ends.  It could have happened one of two ways, either you were the one to end it, or your former friend decided to.  And it was likely due to so many reasons, either the friendship was toxic, codependent, a significant event occurred, or the relationship just drifted apart, etc.  Romantic breakups are more talked about than friendship breakups, but they happen to everyone, and they can hurt just as badly.

Here are some ways to help cope with the feelings and thoughts that occur after a friendship has ended:

1. Acknowledge your feelings: Please know that the pain you may be experiencing is normal. You and your friend most likely shared so many things and spent a lot of time together. The routine of talking to them daily has ended, or regularly connecting with them in some way. The feeling of loss is real and valid.

2. Practice self-care: Even though it seems easier to just stay in bed, make sure you get out and do things that you enjoy. Do not neglect personal hygiene, and participate in your daily and weekly activities. For some it could be reading, creating art, playing music, socializing with others, or something else. If it is a healthy outlet, and it makes you feel better, it is considered self-care.

3. Avoid overthinking: Not overthinking means not going over old thoughts to the point where they interrupt your present happiness. For example, it would be a bad idea to go over old messages and photos if they bring you more sadness. You want to process the emotion and not act as if the friendship never happened.

4. Talk to someone: The person that you speak to can be anyone that you feel comfortable with; a parent, caregiver, counselor, or even another friend.

5. Check on your emotional health: Friendships can cause great hurt and can cause feelings of grief. If you ever feel as if life isn’t worth living or have thoughts of suicide, please seek mental health assistance immediately. If you do not work proactively to process this grief, it can lead to clinical depression.

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