Blending two families can be a complex and challenging process.  With some basic skills and commitment to ideas like being patient, having open communication, and a willingness to compromise, it is possible to create a harmonious and fulfilling family dynamic. Here are a few tips to keep in mind if you are in the process of blending two families:

Communicate openly and honestly: Clear communication is key to effectively building a blended family. Make time to talk openly and honestly about your expectations, feelings, needs, and boundaries. It is important to actively listen and try to understand each other's perspectives to the best of your ability.

• Respect each other's boundaries: Each family member brings their own set of boundaries, values, and beliefs to the table. It is important to respect these boundaries and be willing to learn and adapt to each other's differences just as you would want others to adapt to yours.

• Establish consistent rules and routines: Consistency is important for children in general and can help them feel more secure in their new family dynamic. Establishing clear rules, expectations, and routines can provide structure and predictability for everyone in the family.

• Practice patience and flexibility: Blending two families is a process that takes time and requires patience and flexibility. One can expect some curveballs and bumps in the road during this process.  It is important to accept this early on and commit to being flexible and working together to problem-solve issues as they arise.

• Prioritize quality time together: Blending families is a verb that requires commitment. If there are not enough opportunities to build connections with family members, then these family relationships can quickly weaken.  Building a strong bond in your blended family takes time and effort so commit to spending quality time together, whether it's through shared activities or simply sitting down to dinner together.

• Seek support: Blending two families can be overwhelming for everyone in the family, and it is important to seek support when needed. This might include seeking therapy or joining a support group for blended families.  If you feel this may help your blended family situation, please feel free to reach out to Modern Therapy and ask about family counseling.

Blending two families is a complex and challenging process, but with some of these skills, themes, and ideas, it is possible to make a new home that feels as safe and as bonded as any other home. Stay committed to the ideas listed above and if needed, seek out support through groups or family therapy and you will be on your way to going from “blended” family to just family.