Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems — at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Types Of Anger
Assertive anger uses feelings of frustration for positive change. You express your anger in ways that create change around you – without causing distress or destruction.
Behavioral anger is expressed physically and is usually aggressive. You may feel so overwhelmed by your emotions that you lash out at the object of your anger.
Chronic anger is an ongoing, generalized resentment of people, frustration with certain circumstances, and anger towards oneself.
Judgmental anger is usually a reaction to a perceived injustice or someone else’s shortcoming.
Overwhelmed anger is an uncontrolled type of anger that occurs when you feel that a situation or circumstance is beyond our control, resulting in feelings of hopelessness and frustration.
Passive aggressive anger is an avoidant and likely tries to avoid all forms of confrontation. This involves repressing any feelings of frustration or anger you’re experiencing.
Retaliatory anger is usually an instinctual response to being confronted or attacked by someone else and is one of the most common types of anger. It is motivated by revenge for a perceived wrong.
Self-abusive anger is a shame based type of anger. If you have been feeling hopeless, unworthy, humiliated or ashamed, you might internalize those feelings and express anger via negative self-talk, self-harm, substance use, or eating disordered behavior.
Verbal anger is a form of anger that deeply hurts the target of one’s anger. Verbal anger may be expressed as furious shouting, threats, ridicule, sarcasm, intense blaming or criticism.
Volatile anger makes you feel mad about perceived annoyances, both big and small. Once you have impulsively expressed your anger, you often calm down just as quickly.
The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or people that enrage you, but you can learn to control your reactions.