We all experience various transitions in life from graduating, landing a first job, getting married, becoming a parent, leaving a job, and moving. These experiences are all impactful and while they can be amazing they can also leave us feeling stressed, anxious, and fatigued. Change is difficult to manage even when that change is exciting and positive. However, there are a few things we can keep in mind when considering making a new transition so as not to feel as stressed.

1. It’s natural

   We are creatures of habit meaning we adopt habits that help us throughout the day. This allows us to use less brain power when going through regular routines so we have more energy for other situations and experiences we come across. This is an amazing way we naturally adapt, giving our brains a break to go on autopilot as needed. However, under stress, our brains need to hop off that autopilot and jump into action. The stress results from transitions where we have to shift routines or ways of being that go against what we are used to.

2. Shift in the brain

   Change impacts how we view ourselves, others, and the world around us. Change challenges us to shift our worldviews and in turn, our brains as neural pathways built during life transitions allow for us to develop new insights about ourselves. 

Whether a transition is viewed as positive, or an obstacle to overcome, we may need to re-evaluate how we define ourselves, no matter what this change might be. There are many ways to make these transitions as smooth as possible:

1. Be present and calm in the moment

   It is okay to feel anxiety or stress during a transition. How can you create a sense of balance for yourself during a transition? By thinking about a calmer period of time, and how you felt in those moments, you can ground yourself back in the present. Remind yourself that this is a moment in time, and will pass like other difficult moments. Reflect on what you need in the present while acknowledging that this can change and that is okay.

2. Gather your supports

   Support is crucial during life transitions. Prioritize time to connect with friends, family, co-workers or a therapist. These individuals can provide other perspectives on what you are going through in order to see that this too shall pass. If you are interested in connecting with a therapist click here.

3. Be compassionate toward yourself

   It takes time to adjust to a transition and it is okay to have various feelings about that. Make space to experience and work through your emotions in order to gain a sense of calm and clarity. Taking deep breaths or slowing down and focusing on your own self-care can help you stay grounded and calm during high stress situations. 

Transitions commonly cause feelings of uncertainty and instability, however as you focus on the future the transition can be smoother. Taking care of yourself and reaching out to supports can help you find your inner peace when managing any large transition.