Many people struggle with making changes in their lives. Some people may not be convinced of the need for change. Some people may understand the change required but may be unable to act due to resources or timing. Some people understand the changes that they want in their lives, have the capability and resources, and yet still struggle with activating that change. It is this third group of individuals with which many folks suffering from mental health difficulties can identify. While working with individuals who list a “lack of motivation” as a reoccurring symptom that is significantly affecting their life, building motivation is one of the first steps needed because motivation is needed to cope, to change symptom-reinforcing habits, and to eventually experience a more desirable mood and quality of life. The next few steps would be one of the most effective ways to help build motivation for change, even for those who particularly struggle with this challenge.
1. Understand what change is needed- Sometimes we may feel the urge to make changes in our lives, but they don’t always result in the goal for which we may be striving. It is in this step that it becomes important to your success to reflect on the change you wish to see and break down the steps to getting there as clearly and honestly as possible. For example, after a breakup you may have the urge to change your life by avoiding fun things in your life because you and your ex did them together. However, if your goals is to still do those activities but feel better about doing them, then avoiding them would not be the change to get you to your goal.
2. Start with your first step- This is when the first action toward change occurs. This is where many people lose steam or get overwhelmed. Having your first step makes this part of the process much more approachable. This means that your first step needs to be small enough to be achievable for where you are at in your situation and large enough to evoke pride in yourself once it is accomplished. This step can be as small as it needs to be to start, but once started, change is already happening.
3. Stay in the step- Many people lose momentum or can’t start at all because they feel overwhelmed by all the steps involved in making the larger change. The secret is that so long as you have your goal and the steps understood, you will achieve them so long as you do not stop. You do not have to keep your larger goal in mind during every step. The occasional check in with your goal is fine, but otherwise, stay in your current step. Strive to not bring dissatisfaction form the last step or anxiety about the next step into what you are doing in this step. Allow yourself to go one step, then the next and your goal will come to you.
If you need help building this motivation or accessing your wisdom around what goals you want for yourself, then feel free to reach out to our office or any mental health provider. This could be the first step toward a great change.