The key to learning to work together as a team is to remember that every healthy relationship involves give and take. Both individuals have to want to participate fully and find ways to support each other for a balanced, mutually fulfilling relationship. It will be worth it to set some time aside to discuss which tasks each of you are good at and which ones are challenging. If your spouse is stronger in an area that is difficult for you, maybe they can take over that responsibility. If you are both weak in a certain area, think about ways you can get outside help. Here are some tips you can utilize in your household to support your spouse with ADHD:
1) Develop a routine
People who live with ADHD benefit from added structure. Try to schedule things that you need to accomplish and use set times for meals, exercise, and sleep.
2) Set up external reminders
Reminders can take the form of dry erase boards, sticky notes, or a to do list on your phone. Anything that is a visual reminder will help to keep the day on track!
3) Control clutter
It can be difficult for people with ADHD to become and stay organized. The added clutter adds to the feeling that their lives are out of control. Try to set up a system with your partner for dealing with clutter and staying organized.
4) Ask the ADHD partner to repeat requests
This may help to avoid misunderstandings and assist them in remembering what you agreed upon.