Here are just a few signs that your friend may be taking advantage of you.
Money can be a stressful topic, which is why it comes as no surprise that combining finances with a partner can be a difficult task. Sharing finances traditionally occurred after marriage when the couple moved in together. In today’s society, many couples are combining their homes and financial lives prior to marriage, which can get a little tricky to figure out at first. While every relationship is different, here are some tips to help you and your partner avoid financial fights.
Validation is the recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. It is a skill that is not commonly recognized, but is extremely important in forming healthy relationships. It is frequently heard within relationships that one or both of the individuals do not feel heard or understood. This can be the case for romantic relationships, family relationships, working relationships, and friendships.
It is no mystery that we live in a competitive society. This could be part of the reason why children as young as 2 emphasis winning and will even cheat. They desire to be successful, which is usually the driving force behind cheating. Here are some reasons why children cheat and how you can deal with it.
Arguments tend to gain momentum. What usually starts out as a reasonable, casual discussion, can quickly lead to nit-picking and screaming. In the moment, an argument can make you feel as if you are totally out of control. The key thing to do during these times is to attempt to take control over your actions.
Emotions can get the best of everyone at times. We tend to lose control of our emotions during an argument, after a personal failure, or when we are concerned about a loved ones. If we leave our emotions unchecked, it can lead to regretful actions or words used in the heat of the moment. And it is not always our anger or sadness that has the ability to lead us to bad decisions, it can be happiness or excitement in certain contexts, if not regulated. Have you ever made a plan with someone based off being in an exceptionally good mood, only to realize the next day you have little interest in fulfilling your new obligation? This is where emotional regulation comes in.
It has been shown that the attachment style developed in childhood effects our relationships as adults. While people tend to stay within the same attachment style through adulthood, people do change and adopt behaviors or traits from multiple styles. The different types of attachments should be seen as a continuum.
Bowlby found that attachments with the primary caregiver usually develop during the first 18 months of the child’s life. This includes instinctual habits, such as crying and clinging. Once children reach the toddler stage, they will form an internal working model, which means they already have frameworks and beliefs about their own self-worth and how much they can depend on others to meet their needs.
Unwanted thoughts are those intrusive thoughts that cause high levels of distress. They seemingly come from nowhere, stick with us, and can cause a significant amount of anxiety. Unwanted intrusive thoughts generally consist of repetitive thoughts about relationships, decisions, sexual identity, safety, religion, death, or worries about questions that have no certain answer. When these thoughts are graphic or contain “inappropriate” themes, people can feel embarrassed or ashamed by them, which can cause people to not talk about what is happening.
Infidelity is also known as: cheating, straying, adultery, being unfaithful, or having an affair. It is a violation of a couple's emotional and/or sexual exclusivity. When someone brings infidelity into a relationship, it is devastating. It’s no wonder why the immediate response after finding out that someone cheated is to feel disbelief, anger, sadness, and grief. It can be possible to move on and rebuild after infidelity, but it takes a lot of effort and forgiveness. There seems to be three common phases of recovery after an affair: the crisis phase, the understanding phase, and the vision phase.
Life is very much like a roller coaster - full of ups and downs. At some point or another you may find yourself going through one of those low points. Whether it’s the lose of a job, an addiction, or perhaps something entirely out of your control - life happens and sometimes you can’t always avoid it. So what can you do to bounce yourself back to a better place? Here are a few suggestions.
According to the CDC (link), 1 in 5 women experience postpartum depression. Unfortunately, many women do not realize they have it and/or do not report it, so the actual number is probably greater. If you think you may be experiencing postpartum depression, try some of these tips.
Anger management is a psycho-therapeutic program for anger prevention and control. It consists of learning what causes your anger and finding healthy ways to express your feelings, without lashing out. Anger management is not about suppressing angry feelings, but learning how to productively use your emotions to convey your thoughts and emotions. Anger is a very normal emotion that we all feel. Once you learn how to express it appropriately, it should lessen the negative effects that anger has your life. You can learn anger management skills on your own by reading books or finding legitimate resources. Most people prefer to take an anger management class or work with a licensed therapist.
Self-harm is also known as non-suicidal self-injury. This can be a very confusing and scary topic for both teenagers and parents. It is generally a difficult thing to talk about, especially when a teenager does not fully understand why they are doing it. The best way to help a teenager to stop self-harming is to help them understand and address the underlying issues.