It’s not healthy to hold on to grudges. Learn how to let go of them in this article!
Do you ever wonder why some people seem to be able to overcome obstacles and struggles more easily than others? That is because they may have more resilience. This is a trait that you are born with, but that can also be worked on and enhanced. Everyone can benefit on working on their resilience, so here are some tips:
It is common when fighting with someone you love to say things you later regret. This stems from our worst fears being brought out, whether it’s a fear being abandoned, betrayed, or unseen. When we fight with those we love, we often want to be heard and work through deep issues. Unfortunately, in the midst of fighting, resolutions don’t always come so easily. If you notice that you are becoming triggered, you should remove yourself from the situation. One of the best things you can do to prevent the fight from continuing is to allow one or both of you to take a short break. This works when there is a prior agreement and strategies in place. Here are some guidelines:
Therapists frequently suggest tracking your moods in order to understand which triggers or situations lead to certain emotions. If you are seeing a counselor or doctor for any mood symptoms, this can be a helpful tool to update them with in between appointments, make the appointments go smoother, and assist you in staying on topic. Having your moods tracked will help you communicate how you have been feeling if you struggle describing it. It also helps to look back at your mood journal to see how far you have come and what you are capable of accomplishing.
Arguments tend to gain momentum. What usually starts out as a reasonable, casual discussion, can quickly lead to nit-picking and screaming. In the moment, an argument can make you feel as if you are totally out of control. The key thing to do during these times is to attempt to take control over your actions.
Emotions can get the best of everyone at times. We tend to lose control of our emotions during an argument, after a personal failure, or when we are concerned about a loved ones. If we leave our emotions unchecked, it can lead to regretful actions or words used in the heat of the moment. And it is not always our anger or sadness that has the ability to lead us to bad decisions, it can be happiness or excitement in certain contexts, if not regulated. Have you ever made a plan with someone based off being in an exceptionally good mood, only to realize the next day you have little interest in fulfilling your new obligation? This is where emotional regulation comes in.
Anger management is a psycho-therapeutic program for anger prevention and control. It consists of learning what causes your anger and finding healthy ways to express your feelings, without lashing out. Anger management is not about suppressing angry feelings, but learning how to productively use your emotions to convey your thoughts and emotions. Anger is a very normal emotion that we all feel. Once you learn how to express it appropriately, it should lessen the negative effects that anger has your life. You can learn anger management skills on your own by reading books or finding legitimate resources. Most people prefer to take an anger management class or work with a licensed therapist.
It is understandable that when your child acts aggressively, you feel overwhelmed. You may not know what to do or where to turn. Try not to panic, your child’s aggressive behaviors can be helped. Although medication can help to reduce symptoms of ADHD, anxiety, and other mood disorders, it will not fix behavior. The key to reducing behaviors is a behavioral approach that involves both you and your child. Here are some ways to help your child.
Nearly 80% of drivers expressed significant anger, aggression or road rage behind the wheel at least once in the past year, according to a new study by the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety. It begs the question - what’s causing all the anger and is there something deeper going on than just road rage?