Unwanted thoughts are those intrusive thoughts that cause high levels of distress. They seemingly come from nowhere, stick with us, and can cause a significant amount of anxiety. Unwanted intrusive thoughts generally consist of repetitive thoughts about relationships, decisions, sexual identity, safety, religion, death, or worries about questions that have no certain answer. When these thoughts are graphic or contain “inappropriate” themes, people can feel embarrassed or ashamed by them, which can cause people to not talk about what is happening.
Infidelity is also known as: cheating, straying, adultery, being unfaithful, or having an affair. It is a violation of a couple's emotional and/or sexual exclusivity. When someone brings infidelity into a relationship, it is devastating. It’s no wonder why the immediate response after finding out that someone cheated is to feel disbelief, anger, sadness, and grief. It can be possible to move on and rebuild after infidelity, but it takes a lot of effort and forgiveness. There seems to be three common phases of recovery after an affair: the crisis phase, the understanding phase, and the vision phase.
Life is very much like a roller coaster - full of ups and downs. At some point or another you may find yourself going through one of those low points. Whether it’s the lose of a job, an addiction, or perhaps something entirely out of your control - life happens and sometimes you can’t always avoid it. So what can you do to bounce yourself back to a better place? Here are a few suggestions.
According to the CDC (link), 1 in 5 women experience postpartum depression. Unfortunately, many women do not realize they have it and/or do not report it, so the actual number is probably greater. If you think you may be experiencing postpartum depression, try some of these tips.
Anger management is a psycho-therapeutic program for anger prevention and control. It consists of learning what causes your anger and finding healthy ways to express your feelings, without lashing out. Anger management is not about suppressing angry feelings, but learning how to productively use your emotions to convey your thoughts and emotions. Anger is a very normal emotion that we all feel. Once you learn how to express it appropriately, it should lessen the negative effects that anger has your life. You can learn anger management skills on your own by reading books or finding legitimate resources. Most people prefer to take an anger management class or work with a licensed therapist.
Self-harm is also known as non-suicidal self-injury. This can be a very confusing and scary topic for both teenagers and parents. It is generally a difficult thing to talk about, especially when a teenager does not fully understand why they are doing it. The best way to help a teenager to stop self-harming is to help them understand and address the underlying issues.
A midlife crisis occurs in middle-aged adults (typically 45-64 years old) when they are going through transitions regarding their identify and self-confidence. It is described in psychology as a crisis, which is generally brought on by things that are highlighted a person’s growing age, inevitable mortality, and shortcomings of life accomplishments. Midlife crises can bring about feelings of depression, remorsefulness, anxiety, and the desire to be young again. This desire to feel young again tends to bring about life changes, such as purchasing a sports car.
Domestic violence is defined as: violence or other abuse by one person against another in a domestic setting, such as in marriage or cohabitation. Also known as intimate partner violence, it is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another. These behaviors include physical harm, fear tactics, isolation, and/or forcing their partner to do things they do not want to do. Behaviors are any type of violence, threats, intimidation, emotional abuse, and/or economic deprivation. Most times, you will see combinations of different types of abuse happening in a relationship.
Setting boundaries is one of the most important things we can do to better our mental health, but it always seems so hard! Although this does not come naturally to most, it is a skill that you can learn and build upon. Your time is valuable, which means you should be spending some of it on yourself. Self-care is something that therapists always push for, but it can seem impossible when every minute of your spare time is given to someone else. There are simple steps that will help you get started with boundary setting.